Affects A Household Has On Personality (Entry #8)
It's safe to say we all have certain aspects of our personalities that we soon realize weren't made on our own. A lot of what is happening around us- takes affect on the way we think, act, and speak. More specifically, our households play a role in shaping our personalities.
Our homes are where we spend most of our lifetime. The people that we live with- under the same roof, have the most power to control how they will take effect on us. For example, I have recognized that many families who lack showing affection, will desperately go and seek for it elsewhere. Those who grew up in a household where it is constant arguing, will grow to become defensive for pretty much everything. They find comfort in arguing with others because that is what seemed right growing up. They also feel the need to be serious in almost every situation. In an article about the Bowen Family Systems Theory for Differentiated Evaluation, it says: "Parents actively shape their children while children respond to their parents attitudes, moods, and actions" (Bowen Theory, 2014). It can be as simple as a bad attitude that will reflect on the way a child will act.
As we get older, we have more freedom to make changes to our personalities. It takes a lot to mend what was already taken over by our households. Of course, there are many positive affects that they do have on us. However, the focus for this was emphasizing the fact that we aren't fully responsible for the way we are. Hopefully everyone is able to find their true selves and escape the unfavorable qualities that our households gave us.
Stay tuned,
Yaqueline Figueroa
I agree that the environment we grow up in had a huge effect on who you become and how you act. This is a great topic because it caused me to really look back and reflect on my life and the person who I am today. Growing up In abusive home I learned to be quiet and take a beating, not to speak up and that I was worth nothing. Now that I'm older I am working to heal myself and learn to speak up and be more confident.
ReplyDeleteYou don't realize how accurate this is until you're older and trying to change the behaviors you've learned were "safe" over the years. This has been a topic in my healing journey the last few years and now that I'm taking psychology classes, this aspect makes so much more sense to me now. It's really awesome to see this generation taking the time to learn about these things and try to break the generational curses.
ReplyDeleteI appreciate this topic! This is very accurate. I myself have grown up doing things that my parents or siblings would do that I told myself I would never do. Humans are creatures of habit and we are out environments and because of this, as an adult I have limited myself on who I allow around me. Thanks for the read!
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